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keeping your eye on the prize

Keep your eye on the prize! Keep your eye on the finish line! But what is the finish line? What is the prize?

The annual homeschool conference speaker made me think.

Is the prize a successful college education with GPA 4.0?

It isn’t about a career.

It is about a life. Helping each child find their lane in life.

What is their purpose? What is their passion? Where are they going? What is their contribution to the world?

We aren’t given a Curriculum Vitae for our pre-born.

We can guess how active they are by the kicks in our tummies, but it’s not compelling information that will tell us if they’ll be kicking for FIFA or just functional walking human beings.

I sure wish we were given that CV though. I’d know that piano lessons wouldn’t be necessary for my scientist-to-be. I’d not insist my kiddo read Scarlett Letter through, when she’d rather focus on a Russian History major, later teach at a community college and garden in her spare time.

We could be told what they like to do best, what atmosphere they would thrive best in, what their strengths will be, how best to enable them past their struggles. How about a list of the things that will cause growth in their lives? Oh boy. Don’t think I’d want to know that. I’d feel the pain of the struggle as much as my children, I’m certain.

Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you’re gonna get until you try one.

Babies are like that. They come out of you, and try as you might to nail down their genetic potential based on mama and papa, there’s no way to determine their penchant for sushi or their creative flair when they begin ripping apart old dresses to make scarves. You just don’t get told that stuff.

So you have to watch. Pay attention. Respond to what they need. And rest in the assurance that…

a. you won’t figure it out

b. it isn’t your job to figure it all out

c. know that you were made their parent for a reason…mwahaha

d. know that she/he was made your child for a reason

e. roll with it

My parenting wisdom: the more I know, the more I know I don’t know (it so happens this is my life philosophy too). So, I’ll practice not knowing, not having everything figured out, and continue to keep rolling with what I’m being shown. And watch them as they lead the way. And try to help lead the way.

What’s she going to do? Where’s she going?

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Only time will tell.

2 thoughts on “keeping your eye on the prize

  1. What a great piece! I’ve been in survival mode lately, just trying to get through each day, so thanks for the reminder to sit back and wonder, pay attention and enjoy. My goal this week is to get back to playing

    • You know what, this piece was ironic. Because it’s just I needed today too. Somethings my earlier self encourages my later self. Stop taking myself too seriously–something Ive been learning too. Play hard! And carpe diem!

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