I’m putting on my thinking cap and gonna get our Brene Brown party started with some good ole fashioned cursing. Brene is the girl next door — despite her PhD, harnessed to a field of interpersonal and psychological research — she’s still got a wee bit of a mouth on her.
Nothing says getting real like her fifth suggestion…
5. “Everyone wants to know why customer service has gone to hell in a handbasket. I want to know why customer behavior has gone to hell in a handbasket.”
Ha, indeed. The gift of entitlement. Easy to assume people should be nice to us; we need to be nice to them too. Kindness is a requirement. Not an option.
Give us screens and a finger, and we’ll say anything that crosses our minds, anonymously. If we can’t say in person what we say on screen, maybe we shouldn’t say anything. (But sometimes, we do get the courage to be as straight spoken in real time as we are on screen because we’ve learned it from the screen).
Still, I ask, could those multi-million earning companies please get real people to answer their phones? Kindly asking;)
6. “To love ourselves and support each other in the process of becoming real is perhaps the greatest single act of daring greatly.”
It helps us to see ourselves as a separate entity that needs support too. We need it just like we offer support and nurture to our friends.
Apply this concept to parenting, and it takes parenting to a whole different level. To love our kids and support them in the process of their becoming real is, might I suggest, the second most greatest act of daring greatly.
A responsibility toward our little followers: to think through what they need to become, not just what they need to do in the moment.
7. “Nothing has transformed my life more than realizing that it’s a waste of time to evaluate my worthiness by weighing the reaction of the people in the stands.”
Ha, well said. And if you think about it, you are the people in your own stand too. You are your own audience. And oftentimes the most difficult observer to satisfy.
Approve of thyself. (Or don’t do what you’re doing).
Give yourself credit. Nurture yourself. Be gracious with yourself, and forgiving too.
8. “Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.”
Wow, deep stuff.
Seems scary to walk into the netherregions of my psyche to discover I can be pretty insecure, fraught with internal troubles if I probe below the surface long enough. And we all have that stuff in our psyche somewhere, or we’ve grappled with it at one time or another.
Dig deep into it. Lean into it. Sometimes with the help of someone wise to help us wade through it, and discover that there is light at the end of the tunnel.
That’s a lot to digest for a week! What have you learned?