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homeschool mama self-care: build connection from the real you

Homeschool mama self-care starts with observing our thoughts, sitting with our thoughts and questioning whether those thoughts are true.

Brene Brown, author of Rising Strong, reminds us to approach leadership from authenticity and vulnerability so we can bring the real us to relationships and see the real thing in other people.

“It’s not about ‘what can I accomplish?’ but ‘what do I want to accomplish?’ A paradigm shift.”

There are days that I must set my mind in the direction of what do I want to accomplish, not just what can I naturally accomplish without the least bit of resistance. I tell myself, “It’s not about can’t, it’s just about do.”

I tell myself this when I write, when I network, when I work on marketing. I tell myself, I am writing, networking and marketing, so I am doing it. Because I want to do it, I’ll just get to it, and do it. It’s not about can’t, it’s just about do.

“Connection is why we’re here; it is what gives purpose and meaning to our lives.”

Our trips to Africa convinced me that we North Americans have something to learn from this continent: camaraderie. Can’t say I enjoyed the uncomfortable humidity, the giant bugs crawling up my leg in the shower, malaria, lack of public sanitation practices or lack of consistent clean water, but what I wanted to bring home was the camaraderie.

I watched people talk to each other, really talk to each other. There were numerous greetings for each time of day, for different locations, for different levels of formality. People actually stopped to listen to the answer “How are you?” We have much to learn from this continent. 

I learned that connection gives our lives purpose and meaning.

“To me, a leader is someone who holds herself or himself accountable for finding potential in people and processes.”

As a parent leader, my initial instinct is to squash the unlovely aspects of my children followers. Reacting to unpleasant behaviours feels like my default. Uplifting their potential is sometimes an afterthought.

At the end of the day, I am responsible for finding potential in my little people, and encouraging them on to greater growth in themselves.

“Authenticity is a collection of choices that we have to make every day.”

Somewhere along the way, I flipped to the other side: the side that was willing to risk being the real me. The authentic side that really wasn’t trying to win favour. This was frightening because if people saw who I really was, they might reject me. And frankly, I think there is truth to that fear. People might not be outrightly critical, but they don’t always want to engage what they see.

However, if I wasn’t my real self, the real me wouldn’t be seen either. And the people that would engage the real me actually wouldn’t see me.

“Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it.”

As I study the Impressionist artists and consider their life’s work, I marvel that they didn’t cave to the pressure of the art establishment at that time. The establishment suggested their work was unfinished, as it didn’t resemble the work of the present era of painters. It certainly wasn’t presentable work, so it wasn’t really art, in their opinion. The establishment was much like Microsoft or Apple suggesting that someone’s cute little app wasn’t worth squat because it wasn’t what was always done.

And yet that art was simply a new version of art, and it was clearly enduring. When the Impressionists chose to walk in their passion, in their path, they contributed to history and to our aesthetic enjoyment.

When we come alive in our passions, and do the thing we love, someone will always benefit. So we don’t ask the world to validate us, we just go do our thing.

Homeschool mama self-care relies on thinking the right thoughts, so thank you Brene Brown for challenging our thoughts.

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2 thoughts on “homeschool mama self-care: build connection from the real you

  1. This is so great, thank you! I love the affirmations as well. Just took an hour and a Hal to write in a cafe today while 2 kids had art class. They were my happiest hours this year so far. Think I’ll make it a habit! Gotta fill the well to keep giving.

    • Thank you! And so true too! Oh that is awesome. Man, I had to start that weekly cafe habit from the first few weeks of homeschooling. I think you’ve been doing it awhile right? You’re made from tougher stuff than me!!

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