Sit with your uncomfortable feelings. Get familiar with them. Learn from them. Learn about you and why you feel what you feel.Teresa Wiedrick
Homeschool mama self-care requires that we challenges our thoughts.Teresa Wiedrick
Dr. Daniel Amen, author of Brain Health, first introduced me to a series of questions that help put all uncomfortable feelings in perspective.
Really? All of them, you ask.
Actually, yes. But I’m hardly saying there isn’t a reason to feel depressed or angry at times, or a bunch of other uncomfortable feelings. Feelings have their place.
We are human beings and human beings feel a whole bunch of feelings. But as we also know, a lot of our uncomfortable feelings would benefit from examination and exploration: which often gives us perspective.
First question: “Is what I’m thinking true?”
Usually, I’d answer, “Yes of course,” to that question. “Of course it’s true, why else would I be thinking it?
Second question: “Can I, with one hundred percent certainty, know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that my thought is true? What if there was a different perspective?”
Hmmm, maybe an alternative perspective would change the outcome to my assumption. Okay, so now I’m thinking about other perspectives now.
And the third question is the clincher.
“What if there is a different way of thinking about things? How would a different thought affect how I approach my uncomfortable feeling or the situation that compelled that feeling? And how might that alternative approach affect the outcome?”
I later discovered these questions were not unique to this well-known brain doctor, Daniel Amen. These questions were part of a psychological approach to cognitive therapy, psychology stuff. Therapy stuff. Stuff you pay a hundred bucks for.
(Caveat: Sometimes you need a friend to sift through your thoughts. And sometimes you need to spend that hundred dollars.)
Another approach to dealing with uncomfortable feelings is reading daily affirmations.
Affirmations aren’t a magic bullet to thought-utopia.
But affirmations can definitely be daily influencers to my homeschool parenting approach.
This is the morning affirmation my kids and I have repeated before our days. The kids have their version of sign language to accommodate these words. Sounds like a familiar scripture verse, reminding us to think on pure, kind, lovely thoughts.
Our thoughts influence our practical, tangible experiences, so consider each uncomfortable thought.Teresa Wiedrick
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