We’re all tired. For good reason.
It’s the season in all our lives to keep on keeping on.
In the spirit of refreshing our thoughts and continuing to grow despite a dormant phase, I share Brene Brown’s thoughts. She is the author of Daring Greatly, Gifts of Imperfections, and Rising Strong.
“Courage starts with showing up and letting ourselves be seen.”
This has been difficult for me to learn. Courage requires risk which obviously might be risky. When you show people who you really are, someone will eventually reject the real you. Ouch!
On the other hand, if you never show up, you’re ‘real you’ will never really be acknowledged or accepted. So you’ll have to live without real acceptance. A fake form of acceptance is all you’ll get. You’ll get as much as you can earn, hustle or finagle out of others: not worth the effort.
And you need that when you’re a homeschool mom, because you need to be surrounded by a supportive community that’s supporting the real you.
“What we know matters, but who we are matters more.”
And try as we might, when we try to portray an image of knowing, rather than just being, people wisely see through our façade. So no point putting on an image of something we think we should be, rather we choose to be what we actually are and have the courage to just be it. Because what we know matters, but who we are matters more.
This is clearly true in our homeschools. As more is caught than taught in our homeschools (dang it!), our most important efforts are put into who we are, not in what we know, or what we can teach, or if we can teach something in the best way.
“Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable, but they’re never weakness.”
Yet they can be perceived that way by the fakers, the actors, the fearful ones, the hustlers. (The people that don’t show up and let themselves be real in front of others.) Owning what we know to be true, in kindness and grace, is definitely not always comfortable. But when we do, we enable others to be themselves too. Being real: not weakness.
And then our kids get to see our real selves and learn to be their real selves in their worlds too.
“Want to be happy? Stop trying to be perfect.”
How successful is successful enough? How productive is productive enough? When I really understood that I am on a timeline, I feel this sentiment intimately. How meaningless our activity when we invest primarily in production or conventional success. Everything we’ve built will come to an end, so we build what we build with perspective and live our lives on purpose.
Standards of perfection keep us from being happy, both within ourselves and with our relationships and certainly within our homeschools. What is a perfect homeschool? Even if it were possible to create a perfect homeschool, what is a perfect education anyway?
Homeschool Mama Self-Care means we’re choosing our thoughts.