We didn’t choose this homeschool lifestyle to eek out more time for ourselves. That’s unlikely. In fact, the care and keeping of you, seems like an afterthought.
Yet, we quickly discover that we are spent.
There is so much time picking up after others. We find pony tails and hair clips in strange places. Then find markers and erasers in the couch.
There is time managing whining, complaining, noise and sibling arguments.
Oh, and then we need to figure out how to get them to engage math or grammar lessons.
Homeschooling can be parenting on amphetamines: a lot of energy expended.
And as every mama knows: if mama ain’t happy, nobody’s happy.
So when people ask me if I get time for myself, I see raised eyebrows when I tell them I get more time now than when they were in school. Because I am in control of my time and schedule. Also, because they get a whole lot more of my focussed attention. But I also have to get more time for myself because I need to feel separate.
My identity is mother, but it’s not mother alone. I am separate.
- I make time for exercise because it burns mental tension and infuses happy hormones to my brain.
- I continue tweeking my diet, even using supplements and loads of fruits and veggies, because food is fuel and useful fuel enables me to think clearly and function highly.
- I insert daily moments of reading inspirational words, cappuccino or tea breaks, journaling, chats with friends, Pinterest.
- I pursue self-development: reading about writing, an afternoon away to write, writing groups, or wherever my curiousities take me.