The holiday season is a time of joy and connection, but navigating the holiday season as a homeschool mom brings unique challenges.
Learning to include your needs and desires in your holiday celebrations is a universal issue for mothers during the holidays. Spending more time with others and being the focal point as someone who is living outside a conventional box can definitely have its issues at this time of year.
Therefore, I offer strategies to establish and maintain boundaries during this bustling time that will serve you into the New Year: a homeschool mom’s guide to holiday boundary challenges.
Here’s the homeschool mom’s guide to holiday boundaries…
Why bolster your homeschool mom boundaries before the holidays?
The holidays mean increased time with people, each relationship adding its nuances.
Bolstering boundaries isn’t just for the festive season; it’s about living authentically, purposefully, and aligned all year long.
Understanding boundaries, those invisible lines that delineate where you end and others begin is crucial for safeguarding your well-being and preserving your energy.
The first step to address: understanding your boundaries and determining your limits.
Boundaries aren’t one-size-fits-all; they’re shaped by your experiences, values, and preferences.
Recognizing that we all have different needs and preferences helps us be more understanding of others. But we need to spend time with ourselves to get clear on what our needs and preferences are too!
When we do this, we’re paving the way for more harmonious interactions. At least from our end. (We can’t control what other people do).
So first step in your homeschool mom’s guide to holiday boundary challenges, ask yourself…
- What do you need?
- What are your present boundary challenges?
- Where are your limits being overstepped?
- Are you overstepping others’ boundaries?
- What do you want from each of your relationships?
- What do you want to offer each of your relationships?
- What might be your first step in moving toward bolstered boundaries?
The second step in the homeschool mom’s guide to holiday boundaries: identify your boundary challenges.
Recognizing boundary challenges is key: that’d be why you would benefit from the Boundary Building Assessment below.
Feeling bugged by comments on homeschooling choices or second-guessing due to others’ opinions are common scenarios.
Envision a scenario where you confidently handle unsupportive questions and assert your needs without hesitation.
So ask yourself, homeschool mom…
- When someone asks you something about your homeschool choice that bugs you, what was it they asked that affected you?
- Is it possible they’re just curious and aren’t familiar with your homeschool choice?
- Is there a way you could respectfully and matter-of-factly answer their questions?
- If they ask you something in an unkind way, are you able to tell them that you feel hurt or confused by their comment?
- If not, and they are unwilling to honour how you want to be spoken to, have you considered why you’re in the relationship?
- What will you say?
Create a respectful, matter-of-fact script before you head into those scenarios.
The third step in the homeschool mom’s guide to holiday boundaries: create a plan to prepare for boundary-breaking scenarios:
Creating a plan for these scenarios is necessary.
Understand your typical responses and draft scenarios, editing out responses you wish to change.
It’s okay to set boundaries and expect respect, even if it means redefining relationships.
If you’d like me to walk alongside you as you begin to develop those boundaries, consider booking a conversation with me.
The relationship between boundaries and self.
Your relationship with yourself significantly influences how you set boundaries with others.
Recognize your individuality, spend time in solitude, and incorporate mindfulness to recharge. Embrace self-care, acknowledging that you have needs beyond your role as a homeschool mom.
The fourth step in the homeschool mom’s guide to holiday boundaries: craft your Boundary Manifesto.
Crafting your manifesto on how you want to relate to others empowers your journey. (You can do this in the Building Boundaries Group Coaching program. Learn more here.)
Prioritizing authentic connections over pleasing everyone is liberating. Embracing your unique self during the hectic holiday season is a significant achievement.
The fifth step to the homeschool mom’s guide to holiday boundaries: Join the Boundaries for the Homeschool Mom Coaching Program.
Real testimonies from homeschool moms highlight the value of exploring boundaries and self-care in this journey. Read what other homeschool moms are saying about coaching with me.
The coaching program offers practical tools to understand and address boundary challenges.
Thriving amidst the holiday hustle
Amidst the holiday hustle, thriving is possible by setting boundaries, practicing mindfulness, and fostering meaningful connections. Wishing you a joyful holiday season filled with peace, joy, and self-empowerment.
Bolster Boundaries at the Holidays for Homeschool Moms
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Teresa Wiedrick
I help overwhelmed homeschool mamas shed what’s not working in their homeschool & life, so they can show up authentically, purposefully, and confidently in their homeschool & life.