Those days…the ones where you wake up a little heavy–the world seems bright outside your bedroom window.
But by the time you reached the kitchen, the littles are speaking thirty decibels louder than your head can manage. And you can’t shush long enough or loud enough to get anyone to stop talking long enough to find the bottle of Advil.
And you react to things in ways you know are counterproductive.
Those days…when it doesn’t matter what you do to quell that child…
…she wants to challenge everything you say, report everything her sibling is doing, or declare she can no longer read, compute basic calculations, or spell three-letter words.
Those days…when you think, now why would I write a blog about capturing the charmed life…
…when I know darn well that the idealism that wants to encourage the world can’t encourage herself to get to loving even THESE days?
A smooth sea never made a skilled sailor.an Old English Proverb
How does one learn life’s lessons without a few challenges?
This kind of freedom doesn’t come for free.
This kind of freedom is earned through hard work, mostly work of the interior.
There’s no manual for parenting, no manual for homeschooling…okay, actually there are, but there are no individualized manuals for this life.
So I’ll continue to determine what I need, what my kids need, what I don’t need, what they don’t need, what we were meant to be and do, and keep on keeping on so that there will be larger gaps between those days.
“I get up. I walk. I fall down. Meanwhile, I keep dancing“.Hillel
Failure. What an ugly word. One that I must engage in more often than I’d like.
How do I not let failure define me?
We are given the night to sleep away our sorrows. To wake in the morning with renewed purpose and be reminded that God’s mercies are new every morning.
Failure is hella hard to let go. But it can be done. If and when we practice on repeat. And remember to practice these five easy (okay, who’s kidding who, there ain’t no easy steps associated with failure, but practice makes perfect (until you fail, ha))…
Know these five things though:
1. There ain’t no life without failure. You are not alone. Everyone has regret stories. Everyone! It’s how we learn.
2. Explore reasons for the failure. Don’t pretend it didn’t happen. If you ignore it, you will see it arise in you again. Try to learn what you can from it. (& expect to keep doing this on repeat until you do it better).
3. Let it go. Continued time spent sifting through your imperfect approach/parenting/words. And fussing won’t make it go away either. So practice with Elsa and let it go.
4. Don’t define your person by the mistakes you’ve made in the past, even if the past is this morning. You aren’t your mistake.
5. Just aim for what you’re looking to pursue and get up and go. This is the first day of the rest of your life.
“She was unstoppable, not because she did not have failures or doubts, but because she continued on despite them”.Beau Taplin, Unstoppable