How to Get Coaching for Homeschool (& Life) as a Homeschool Mama

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I’m privileged to virtually walk alongside homeschool mamas just like you. That’s how I know a homeschool mama will benefit from coaching for homeschool (& life).

You invite me into your homeschool and tell me why you homeschool and who you homeschool. You share your challenges, and sometimes why you’re not sure you want to keep going. Or at least why it feels so hard right now.

You know I’ve been there, done that. I’ve homeschooled four kids. All four of our kids are grown now.

So why would a homeschool mama need coaching for homeschool (& life)?

Why I Needed Coaching for Homeschool (& Life) Myself

You’ve heard me share my story. Somewhere in January of our third year, I was done with homeschooling.

To be precise, I’d had enough of kid conflict. I was tired of forcing kids to sit down, be quiet, and stay motivated. Daily, I begged them to focus, stop arguing, and leave the scissors where I left them. Then came the interrupting and disrespectful words. All of it pushed me to the brink of overwhelm.

But that wasn’t my only moment of questioning my homeschool choice. I’ve had more than one season of homeschool overwhelm, and even life overwhelm. Also, I’ve had moments of exasperation with a child or two or three. I’ve had seasons of worry, too.

Growing myself up alongside my kids

I don’t come from one of those strong family stories. I wasn’t taught that who I was mattered, or that my feelings mattered. At times, I wasn’t sure anyone noticed I was there. So I’ve been reparenting myself, growing up right alongside my kids.

I’ve also had to reorder relationships. At some point, I had to learn to set boundaries in pretty much every relationship in my life.

(Boundaries weren’t taught in my family of origin. I didn’t even explore them until I was 34, years after I began parenting.)

If that sounds familiar, these practical (& useful) steps to dealing with boundaries in your homeschool are a good place to start. Or listen to a homeschool mom podcast for boundary breakthrough.

Finding my identity beyond homeschool mom

When you hear me talk about homeschool mamas finding their identity, know that experience was mine too. I remember my first writing conference. By the end of that weekend, I was in love and in awe. I’d found the love of my life: writing.

But I’d always been in love with her. I began writing when I was seven, in a little green-locked journal from Zellers. I just didn’t spend enough time acknowledging her. So I didn’t develop her.

That weekend made it clear. I was not just a mom: I was a writer.

But how could I write? Surely I’d have to ditch the other three loves of my life.

(I say that for your amusement, but I was genuinely distraught. I thought I’d made a mistake by having a family before taking up writing. Turns out, the two aren’t mutually exclusive. I’ve simply had to bring writing into regular practice, despite my rather consuming homeschool mom identity.)

Learning to fly with broken wings

I came into marriage and parenting with rather colourful growing-up years. So I wanted to capture a charmed life. (Did I subconsciously name my website? Oh yes, I did.)

Along the way:

• Fear of anger, in others and in myself, is something I’ve learned to overcome.
• I’ve let go of needing others to like me.
• Being authentic despite my vulnerability took practice.
• The Great Sadness, a dark storm of painful stories that linger long after trauma, has been mine to overcome.
• I’ve practiced self-compassion again and again.

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For years, Rachel Platten’s Fight Song was my anthem. It reminded me that a quiet woman can still find her voice. The words I’d swallowed didn’t have to stay stuck inside me. I was far stronger than I’d been told.

So hear the beautiful truth I tell you when we chat virtually. You were created, therefore you are worthy. You are valuable. And you are here for a purpose and a reason.

Despite the seemingly overwhelming challenges, one song has been mine. I believe it can be yours too.

That song is Sarah McLachlan’s gentle cover of Blackbird, written by Lennon and McCartney. It’s a song about learning to fly through the darkest hours. Every time I hear it, I’m reminded that a hard season is never the end of the story.

You may have broken wings, but you can learn to fly. Even in the most unusual circumstances, you can arise and sing. And you can learn that you are free.

What Coaching for Homeschool (& Life) Uncovers

In our first virtual coaching conversations, we begin to uncover why you’re struggling. And those reasons are almost never the ones we started chatting about.

Probably it’s not just about frustrations with your kids. The bickering, the arguing, the complaining when you ask them to do something.

Maybe it’s not about uncertainty, or a lack of confidence in your homeschool choice.

It’s likely not because you have too many things to do. Or because you feel compelled to do everything everyone on Instagram or at your co-op is doing.

Probably it’s not because your community isn’t supportive, or because you don’t have a homeschool community at all.

Perhaps it’s not because you feel you’re not doing homeschool good enough.

Probably it’s not because your partner doesn’t support your homeschool choice.

It isn’t likely about struggling to move from your previous profession into homeschool life.

Probably it’s not even that you’re struggling in your marriage right in front of your homeschool kids.

Maybe it’s not because you’re kinda bored. You’ve been doing this a few years, maybe with the same curriculum. Your days are the same, the kids kept coming, you kept homeschooling…and now what?

Probably it’s not because you’re losing your stuff on the kids. (Even though, how could it not be this one?)

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What’s often underneath

I’ve learned that it’s often this: at the base, you need time away. Then you can see and understand what’s actually going on. That’s the heart of an energizing homeschool mom retreat for your heart.

• You need to become more aware of your needs.
• Understanding the things that trigger you matters too.
• Learning how to set boundaries is essential.
• Some big hurts might need working through.
• You may need time to get clear on your base issues with your partner, your kids, or other significant relationships.
• You need to know how to address those issues proactively. Don’t wait for a magical, non-existent utopia to take over your home. (Not that I know what I’m talking about here.)
• You need to be clear about what you think an education is anyway. Why are you putting all this effort into your kids’ home education?
• Clarity also helps you answer the repeated questions from important people in your life. They may not be your homeschool cheerleaders, but they truly love you and your kids.

What you need for yourself

I’ve learned it’s also this. You need to be clear on what you need, and how you’re making time and space for it. That includes mental stimulation, quietness, separateness, and a life outside homeschooling. (One day, sooner than you think, you will have a life outside homeschooling.)

You also need to be clear on what you expect from each of your kids. And on how you’ll respond when a child doesn’t show up the way you expect. That’s how you release yourself from reactivity and respond with purposeful intention.

And you need to be clear on how you handle big emotions as you homeschool. Think anger, frustration, failure, not feeling good enough, perfectionism, and stress. Think, too, of the really big things, like moving, separations, deaths, and other loss.

We all need time and space to explore what we need. We need to grow more proactive in our relationships. And we need to develop our separate sense of self and purposeful activities: the life that waits for us after our youngest graduates. (I’m living that season now, and it’s worth preparing for.)

That’s exactly the work of coaching for homeschool (& life). It’s why customized homeschool help for parents can transform your life.

Two Ways to Begin Coaching for Homeschool (& Life) with Me

I’d be privileged to walk alongside you. You can start with one-on-one coaching or the virtual Homeschool Mama Retreat. Choose whichever fits your season.

One-on-one homeschool (& life) coaching

Want personal support for your unique family? Let’s talk. Book a free, no-obligation conversation and we’ll see if it’s a good fit.

Curious what our chats look like? Read these 7 perspective-shifting discussions with homeschool mamas.

The virtual Homeschool Mama Retreat

Prefer to work at your own pace? In this guided retreat, you can get away and take a breather. You can dig deep into whatever keeps you from enjoying your homeschool charms.

…So you can show up on purpose in your homeschool days.

If you want to…

• Reimagine how you show up in your homeschool life
• Renovate your self-nurturing strategies
• Recognize your emotional landscape
• Reassess your homeschool vision
• Release your unhelpful homeschool mindset

…then join me in a virtual Homeschool Mama Retreat.

Not sure how a virtual retreat works? Start with the most useful guide to a virtual homeschool mom retreat. Then see how to show up better in your homeschool with a retreat.

Frequently Asked Questions About Coaching for Homeschool (& Life)

Ready to Start Coaching for Homeschool (& Life)?

Originally published April 20, 2022. Updated November 6, 2026.

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