remembering our homeschool freedoms: don’t forget the gift in your child

Sometimes we need other people to remind us of our homeschool freedoms.

The title of this post isn’t my title. It’s Carol’s.

“Remembering our homeschool freedoms: don’t forget the gift in your child.” And it rings so true for me.

I haven’t personally met Carol. She was the keynote speaker at a homeschool conference I attended years ago. Nothing like a homeschool conference to kickstart a renewed joy for homeschooling.

Besides inducing ab-strengthening belly laughs for an hour, Carol encouraged us to see the gift that we have living life right alongside us, our kids.

Though most of us start this homeschool journey with happy intentions to benefit our children, when we get enough time around our kiddos we can quickly become disillusioned with the negative energies…

  • the continuous barrage of…
  • “mom, she hit me,”
  • “mom, she took my toy,”
  • “mom, she won’t give it back,”
  • “mom”, “mom”, “mom”….
  • until, like Carol says, we feel we’re watching The Birds by Alfred Hitchcock, listening to the frightening chanting of “mom, mom, mom, mom”.

And similarly, we are frightened, and sometimes feel like we’re losing our minds.



unrealistic expectations and losing my mind as a homeschool mom is often why we forget the gift in our child

I can definitely relate to the sensation of losing my mind at times.

Carol likes to think we have flawed expectations.

What? My expectations are unrealistic and flawed?

  • Do you mean my five-year-old shouldn’t have temper tantrums?
  • What about that teenager that wants to be alone, because she doesn’t want to be around her siblings all day long. She should just suck it up, right?
  • The funny kid who doesn’t know that there’s a time and a place for funny, and it ain’t at the end of a frustrating day. She should know when to be quiet, right?
  • The kiddo that hones your arguing skills until you realize that you are in fact arguing with your child. You know, that kid that you’re already saving for law school? Can’t she just be told to be quiet and leave it alone once and for all?

Apparently not.

We homeschooling moms can grow more frustrated because we’re with our kiddos 24/7.



Remembering our homeschool freedoms: sometimes we need to remind ourselves with our Homeschool Mama Daily Affirmations

We can get stuck in maintenance as homeschool mamas.

  • We are continuously facilitating their education, and at times teaching too.
  • We are continuously connecting, correcting, and training.
  • We can begin to feel like we’re constantly responding to negative energy.

When we look our homeschool live at it all from a slightly different perspective, we can see that most of our kids try to please us most of the time.

They really do want our approval and our acceptance.

But if we have honed (& high) expectations of our kiddos, our kids can quickly disappoint us or frustrate us when they don’t meet those expectations (and they know it, by the way).

And they will eventually feel disappointed that they can’t please us, and they might give up trying.

Sometimes we have lofty hopes for our kids, like writing that family play, in Latin, or winning that online geography or homeschool co-op spelling bee.

If our kids see that they aren’t meeting our expectations, then what?

Carol reminded me that we can’t let that pattern continue, because our view of our children is reflected in their eyes: our kids absorb the negative vibes they’re getting from us.

Carol told us to pitch our “Ozzie & Harriet” family.

I didn’t personally watch that show growing up, but I do recall The Cosby Show.  I don’t recall Clare Huxtable losing her temper…though she did a little eye-rolling and commanding. 

And in just a half-hour, the Huxtable family problems were solved.




Let go of expectations, because your expectations can become premeditated resentments.

Pitch Dick & Jane while you’re at it. And Little House on the Prairie too. (Not the books, just the perfect family notions).

Don’t keep repeating the same thing if it isn’t working. If you’re trying to correct something and your approach isn’t working, don’t keep doing it.

(Easier said than done, right? Repeated practice required).

Instead of seeing the frustration in your kiddo, see how that child might eventually turn that challenge into their charm. Maybe their penchant for shyness will become a tenderhearted listener. Maybe their penchant for arguing will enable them to have above-average logic skills and not just a healthy income after they pass the bar.

Look all the way to the end, to the completion of who they will become. See them in their completed state. And until they get to the place, treat them like they will.

You’re with your kids 24/7, true, but don’t miss the gift in your children.

(Thanks Carol!)

PS Every morning, I reaffirm my intentions towards my homeschool and my homeschool kids by reading these daily affirmations.


Teresa Wiedrick, your Homeschool Life Coach
Teresa Wiedrick, your Homeschool Life Coach

I offer homeschool life coaching, which means I work with (mostly) women who are looking to shed what’s not working so they can show up in their homeschool (& life) authentically, purposefully, and confidently.


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