Brene Brown gets me thinking about how I can show up in my homeschool.
No, she doesn’t speak directly about homeschooling that I’ve seen, but her guiding principles certainly could.
These are the things she shares that impact my homeschool:
“To love ourselves and support each other in the process of becoming real is perhaps the greatest single act of daring greatly.”
These words remind us to see ourselves as a separate entity that needs support too. We need it just like we offer support and nurture to our children, friends, and partners. We need to nurture the nurture.
Apply this concept to parenting, and it takes parenting to a whole new responsibility. But I think most of us, as homeschool parents, intuitively know that that is what we’re signing up for.
We want to support our kids to become real, to fully become themselves: this might be the second greatest act of daring greatly.
This responsibility toward our little followers: to help facilitate who they might become and watch what they might need at the moment.
“Nothing has transformed my life more than realizing that it’s a waste of time to evaluate my worthiness by weighing the reaction of the people in the stands.”
If you think about it, you are the people in your own stand too. You are your own audience. And oftentimes the most difficult observer to satisfy.
Give yourself credit. You’ve done a lot, you’ve learned a lot, you’ve committed to a gigantic role in your children’s lives. Nurture yourself.
But also, we need to learn to not care what the neighbours think of our homeschool choice, what our family thinks about our homeschool choice, or what the post office guy thinks about our homeschool choice.
They all have opinions, of course, because they’re human. But that doesn’t mean they get to decide how to educate your children.
It also doesn’t matter what they think about your qualifications, your ability to handle arithmetic or discuss plate tectonics, how well-read you are, or whether you’re giving your children the best education.
Still, your choice.
You get to decide how well you’re doing.
Might I suggest checking out this post to reassure yourself that you’re doing a fabulous job!
“Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.”
Wow, deep stuff. All our darknesses impact how we’re relating to our children and how motivated we are to show up with joy in our homeschools.
Seems scary to walk into the nether-regions of my psyche to discover I can be pretty insecure and fraught with internal struggle if I probe below the surface long enough.
Dig deep into your scary stuff too.
Lean into it.
Sometimes with the help of someone wise to help us wade through it, we’ll discover that there is light at the end of the tunnel.