Researchers say we homeschool mamas, and every other human, have 50,000-70,000 thoughts per day.
That sounds like plenty of thoughts, but I know that some of these thoughts are not all that inspiring. Certainly not all that positively influencing our thoughts.
How do I positively influence my homeschool mama thoughts so I can enjoy my homeschool?
Because above every person, my thoughts influence me the most, so how do I positively influence my homeschool mama thoughts?
So many thoughts, so little time.
That we might need some homeschool help for mom…
- “Remember to take Vitamin B12.”
- “Get the kids to take their Vitamin D.”
- “How’d this plate break?”
- “Could you please stop fighting already?”
- “Oh my goodness, he’s growing up…my baby’s growing up!” (this thought occurs every November 7–my baby is 11 now).”
- “I really need to stop eating Halloween candy. It’s January.”
- “I should really go to bed earlier.”
Wait. I’ll just repeat those exact thoughts tomorrow.
I don’t often spend time thinking about how I’m affecting my thinking.
My thoughts might arise from my inborn predisposition, or influenced by traumatic events, or influenced by formative people in my childhood, or the culture I live in, or a convincing person, or my Enneagram or Meyers Briggs personality type.
A lot of possible ways to affect my thinking.
I have learned I could think differently about pretty much anything in life.
I have learned this by talking to other people that don’t think like me. Which has happened a lot, since I have traveled plenty, owned a bed and breakfast, and enjoyed listening to people’s stories and perspectives, especially people that don’t think like me.
All this confirms that the world is not filled with people that think like me and we come by our perspectives and our thoughts differently.
Yet all people want similar things: life purpose, ability to act on that purpose, community connection, to feel understood, and to understand others.
Yet, still, we humans aren’t identical and we don’t think identically either. But we do all have uncomfortable feelings.
Some of our thoughts are uncomfortable and we would rather not have them.
You know, those thoughts: feeling angry, feeling overwhelmed, feeling despair or depressed, feeling uncertain or confused, feeling….you fill in the blank.
Dr. Daniel Amen, author of Brain Health, first introduced me to a series of questions that help put all uncomfortable feelings in perspective.
Really? All of them, you ask.
Actually, yes.
But I’m hardly saying there isn’t a reason to feel depressed or angry for reasons. We are human beings, in fact, and human beings feel a whole bunch of feelings. But a lot of our uncomfortable feelings would benefit from self-examination which can give us perspective.
First question: “Is what I’m thinking true?”
Usually, I’d answer, “Yes of course,” to that question. “Of course it’s true, why else would I be thinking the thought?”
Second question: “Can I, with one hundred percent certainty, know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that my thought is true? What if I had a different perspective?”
There is always a different perspective. I would know because I’m married. You too? A useful benefit to being partnered long-term: understand that the world does not think identically to you.
Hmmm, maybe that would change the outcome of my response to that original thought.
And the third question is the clincher.
“What if there is a different way of thinking about things? How would a different thought affect how I approach my situation? And how might that affect the outcome?”
I later discovered these questions were not unique to this well-known brain doctor, Daniel Amen. These questions were part of a psychological approach to cognitive therapy, psychology stuff. Therapy stuff. Stuff you pay a hundred bucks for.
Caveat: Sometimes you need a friend to sift through your thoughts. And sometimes you need to spend that hundred dollars. If you’d like a homeschool life coach to walk alongside you, I’d be delighted.
Reading homeschool mama affirmations help shape how I think too.
Homeschool mama affirmations aren’t a magic bullet to thought utopia but they are daily influencers in my homeschool thoughts.
Our thoughts influence our practical, tangible experience of homeschool, so we need to practice considering each one, even if there are 52, 789 thoughts every. single. day.
Above every person in our sphere and every book we can read, our thoughts influence us the most.
Teresa Wiedrick, author of Homeschool Mama Self-Care: Nurturing the Nurturer
Big Emotions Journal for the Homeschool Mom
Introducing the Homeschool Mama’s Toolbox, a resource to help homeschooling mothers manage emotions and enhance mindfulness. It includes Dr. Amen’s three questions for self-reflection. Daily meditation practices and a Thought Care Checklist aid in handling challenging situations. Sharpen your mental tools and improve your homeschooling journey today!
