How Brene Brown Can Teach Homeschoolers to Be Confident

Brene Brown encourages us to dare greatly in our homeschools.

How we think about our kids, how we think about ourselves, and how we think about our homeschools influences how we experience our homeschools.

It’s why we need to consider thought self-care strategies.

Because we mamas experience overwhelm, frustration, perfectionism, failure, loneliness, the not-good-enough, and a whole bunch of human feelings packaged in the homeschool experience.




Dare Greatly.

We homeschool moms are doing something that requires us to dare greatly. You chose this homeschool thing, so do this homeschool thing your way. Do it the way you would do it if you knew you weren’t being criticized.

Do it that way.

Because as Brene Brown quotes Theodore Roosevelt, “It isn’t the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows, in the end, the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly….”

ps read that again…

Dare Greatly quote Brene Brown

When you’re in the arena, you’re going to get your ass kicked.

This homeschool parenting thing requires a lot of work, a strong spirit, and requires a lot of self-analysis. And it definitely makes us feel like we’ve been ass-kicked on THOSE days.

There ain’t no getting this thing right the first time.

  • Maybe it’s long division that you didn’t know you didn’t know until you had to teach it to your kids.
  • Maybe it’s figuring out how not to lose your mind when three kids need you to explain something to them at the very same time.
  • Maybe it’s figuring out what your child needs.
  • Or that your third child can’t read as quickly as your first (or your third can read more quickly than your first, like mine).
  • Or that you’d have to figure out how to discuss your homeschool choice without feeling triggered.

So many possibilities.

Jump into the arena of not being on the beaten path, and you’re going to get your ass kicked.



The most compassionate people are the most boundaried people.

Around our time, around our energy, around the way we want to engage in conflict or gossip, around a whole lotta things.

Should we always allow our kids to interrupt us when we’re doing something, like reading, speaking on the phone, finishing a work project? I don’t think so.

We need to teach our kids that we need separate space at times and make sure they’re learning to honour those separate spaces.

When we provide ourselves with what we need, we are more able to provide our kids with what they need.

Authenticity is a practice & authenticity is required.

If you’re not the real you, you’re not building the real community that you could be part of and that you need. You’re not feeling supported (& we definitely need support as we do this homeschool life).

There’s a conversation piece that sometimes goes like this: “I don’t feel connected to that group/co-op/book club because they’re cliquey”.

I want to call that out.

Are you…

a. assuming you don’t fit in because you’re not bringing your authentic self to that person or group?

b. assuming that other people should come over to chat with you even though you’re not willing to go over to them and introduce yourself and get interested in them as much as you expect them to be interested in you?

We need to expect authenticity of others in our most important relationships too. And we need to offer authenticity to others in our most important relationships too.

This is how we build connection and community.

When we dare greatly, are willing to get our ass-kicked, maintain energy through boundaries, and build authentic community, we build our homeschool confidence.


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