Homeschool mama self-care means we must be conscious of our influencers.
Our thoughts influence our actions and impacts our experience of life and how we engage our choices in life. It is not just my own thoughts that affect me. Those around us influence us too.
We need to choose our influencers wisely.
Every person influences us along our life story. Imagine a theatre stage. We are the main actor. All the world’s a stage, Shakespeare says. Each person in our lives is a character in that life story: our parents, children, partner, friends, cousins, aunts, and uncles. Also, the mail delivery person, the café barista, the grocer, the teachers, the employers, the co-workers, the authors of books we read, the coaches of sports teams we play, the producers of television shows, the musicians to which we listen–these are all our influencers.
The bear hugs of warmth after a long car trip to visit Grandma, a warm word from Grandpa on our wedding day, a parent’s “I’m so proud of you”, or a counselor’s words to put in the effort of a struggling marriage. Some people pass in and out of our lives, but the way the encourager makes us feel lasts forever.
The roommate who walked into the room with a warm smile and exuded confidence. The mentor who suggested you didn’t have to be afraid, just be the real you. The child that determined her happiness would hold firm with or without the approval of others. The teacher teaches without white boards and markers.
The one that looked into your eyes and stroked your face when you were sad, that told you that you were worthy of being loved, that you have value just because you were created. The one that always responds on the other end of an emergent text. The nurturer makes us feel connected, worthy, and valuable.
The one that speaks the truth without fear. The one that spoke a truth you didn’t want to hear. The one that spoke a truth in a roomful of naysayers. The one that convinced you of that truth and compelled you to practice that new truth. The revolutionary compels us toward truth.
The one that makes us see in the mirror something we need to see in us. The mirror compels us to being honest about ourselves and practicing new skills that we never would have accepted if we didn’t see it in their eyes.
The one that knocked the happy out of us whenever she visited. The one that scared us with his abruptness. The one that commented on a post unkindly. The villain helps us see what we don’t want.
Our stories are not the same, but we walk through life with similar stories. We have different scenarios, different characters, but similar themes. The co-travelers remind us that we’re not alone.