Beyond your Homeschool Mama Identity

So, you signed up to homeschool and you’re grateful to have followed this path.

You’ve appreciated all the freedoms this homeschool lifestyle has brought your family, but you’ve been doing it for a few years and you’re realizing, to your utter surprise, that you might be working yourself out of a job, and you even want to do things that aren’t related to homeschooling.

Who are you beyond your homeschool mama identity and what will be the next contribution of your life outside your homeschool mama identity?

“Perhaps the most important lesson one can teach: you are someone and you have a right to your life”.

Richard Hugo

you have a right to your life homeschool mama

Natalie Goldberg said, “I went home with the resolve to write what I knew and to trust my own thoughts and feelings and to not look outside myself. I was not in school anymore: I could say what I wanted.”

Natalie Goldberg recognized she was unconstrained and didn’t need to look outside herself to know herself and be herself.

She was a person outside of other people.

That would be me at thirty.

Thirty years old, released from my notions of people-pleasing and attempting to smooth out things that were out of my control.

And it was during this time that I recognized I had a voice.

A voice that also liked to write.

I attended a writing conference for the first time in my life, despite writing my entire life.

Walking away from that writing conference, I was determined to write.

I had finally found myself.

This is me! I’m a writer. I have stuff to say.

No one gave me a writing pen, or saw my talent, or gave me permission. I just wanted to write.

Anyone who has letters after their name, money in their bank account, or loads of followers is deemed to have made a valuable contribution.

We appreciate these people because they have made a contribution and presence in our world.

But it wasn’t just a handful of people plucked out of the world to be contributors to our generation.

We are given that rite of passage because we were born.

We all were created for a reason.

Some common reasons, of course.

But still unique reasons for each one of us. 

With internal compelling for different activities and different thought lives, and different approaches.

When we’re each playing our part, we contribute toward a rich, abundant, interesting world.

With the demands of those around us and the demands we place on ourselves by listening to others’ opinions on our lives, we are not always living our lives or allowing our voices to come off mute. But we can.

It seems intuitive: this is your life. But we don’t always choose to engage our lives fully.


What should you be doing right now to fulfill your reason for being alive?

Live your life on purpose.

“There are two important days in your life. The first was when you were born. The second was when you found out why.”

Terry Tempest Williams

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