What do homeschoolers want to deschool from: let’s get specific.

What is the school mindset that so many homeschoolers want to deschool from?

That’s the question.

This is the question that homeschool families have a hard time answering for ourselves.

We know that we’re trying to leave a schooled mindset behind, but we don’t always know what it is we’re trying to leave.

So what do homeschoolers what to deschool from?



kids playing games: is this what homeschoolers want to deschool from?

In my own experience, since I was also conventionally schooled and I also brought my kids home after my oldest finished second grade and my second finished kindergarten, I’ve learned that the following are some of the things that I had to unlearn or deschool, from my conventional education.




What do homeschoolers want to deschool from?

  1. We assume kids should always be busy, be kept busy.
  2. We assume kids must have a constant exposure to new things.
  3. We assume kids need to identify in a particular grade.
  4. We assume kids need teachers to learn stuff.
  5. We assume learning comes best through lectures, textbooks, and testing.
  6. We assume kids need to learn certain things at certain times.
  7. We assume kids typically are at the same developmental level to receive knowledge bits at similar times.
  8. We assume kids will be interested in things we’re interested in because we’re interested in them.
  9. We assume we can organize learning and can create systems of learning.
  10. We assume teachers need to be certified.
  11. We assume we have to switch from role of mother to teacher dependent on what we’re discussing.
  12. We assume there are only certain times of the day that kids can learn.
  13. We assume there are only certain subjects that are considered learning.
  14. We assume that kids’ emotional connection & attachment can be put on hold for seven hours.
  15. We assume that the most important persons in a child’s life are his/her peers.
  16. We assume that someone else, a prescribed system, developed by the experts would know better than parents, how to advocate for an education for our children.
  17. We assume that children wouldn’t know how they should be educated.
  18. We assume that an education has to be pre-planned even for that child, that can’t just happen as they go.
  19. We assume that there is a certain time in life to learn and there is a certain time in life to produce.
  20. We assume everyone needs base knowledge.
  21. Or we assume there is only one way to get a base knowledge.
  22. We assume that base knowledge has to be learned in sequence.
  23. We assume that the base knowledge learned in sequence will be remembered because we tested.
  24. We assume that because we tested, kids know. Even if we know that they don’t care.
  25. We assume that imparting anything is a good done for them.

What would you add to this list: what do homeschoolers want to deschool from?




“Everybody is a genius, but if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid”.

Albert Einstein

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